Pregnancy center shines hope into uncertainty
    January 26 2016 by Liz Tablazon, BR Staff Writer

    It takes about nine days for a woman to make a decision about the next nine months of her life – and her child’s.
     
    The first nine days, or 216 hours, after a woman finds out she is pregnant are critical, according to Tonya Baker Nelson, executive director of A Hand of Hope Pregnancy Center in Fuquay-Varina. For a woman not expecting a pregnancy, it is usually during this time that she decides to either carry the child or terminate the pregnancy. That’s why the staff at A Hand of Hope organized Reality 216, a nine-day initiative to get an idea of the reality a woman and her partner face.

     

    During Reality 216, A Hand of Hope publishes blog posts written from the perspective of a woman unexpectedly facing pregnancy.

     
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    A Hand of Hope staff, from left to right: Donna Baker, Valerie Champion, Tonya Baker Nelson, Kelsey Williamson, Mandy Shawver, Mae Durgett and Amanda Schachle.

    The stories are based on clients’ experiences and reveal sleepless nights, anxiety, guilt and pressure from the baby’s father to abort. Reality 216 concluded with A Hand of Hope closing on property beside A Preferred Women’s Health Center, an abortion-providing clinic, on Dec. 17.
     
    The additional location will allow the center to further minister through mentorship and support leading to and following a child’s birth. Clients come to the center to obtain a free pregnancy test and ultrasound performed by an OB-GYN. A registered nurse gives medically accurate information about the pregnancy and an abortion procedure, for free.
     
    “We don’t charge for any services because we want to make sure that they’re informed,” Nelson said. “They don’t know how they will be affected from the abortion. Culture teaches it’s no big deal, you’ll be fine. There’s that secret pain that nobody really wants to talk about.”
     
    The staff and volunteers commit to being intentional with the gospel throughout a client’s entire experience at A Hand of Hope.
     
    “An abortion is not gonna send her to hell,” Nelson said. “We are very intentional about making sure that they know something more about Jesus than they did when they came in.”
     
    Clients often bring up Christianity themselves. Counselors initially ask them to rate their decision on a scale of one to 10. One represents no desire to terminate the pregnancy, and 10 represents a definite abortion. Counselors follow up by asking how they feel about their decision.
     
    “Eight out of 10 times they will bring up God in that response,” Nelson said. “Whenever that door opens, we run right through it. We let them know, look, this is who we are. We’re here regardless of the decision you make.”
     
    Nelson has seen people of many religious backgrounds at the center: Muslims, Hindus, Wiccans, Jews and Christians.
     
    “We point blank say, ‘You know, we recognize that you might not believe this. That’s your business. I cannot live your life for you, make your decision for you, but let me share with you what helped me when I was in the middle of making that pregnancy decision’.”
     
    Counselors are encouraged to talk about their own faith. “When you start sharing your story, they can’t doubt that because you’re right there sharing that,” she said.
     
    Meeting with clients results in varying circumstances. If the pregnancy test is negative, or if it is positive and the parents are unsure of their next step, they receive a bag of resources, including a Bible.
     
    If they decide to parent, they receive a gift bag for the baby. They then have the opportunity to take life skills classes, where they can earn “mommy money” and “daddy dollars” to spend at the center’s boutique. As the expectant parents go through the program, they can “buy” diapers, formula, car seats and other supplies.
     
    “Their children are their responsibility,” Nelson said. “They can stay involved until the baby is two years old. That’s three years of mentoring them. Our goal is to make sure they’ve got everything they need to properly parent their child.”
     
    Staff and volunteers help parents find a church family if they want to get involved in a local church. They also work with agencies for clients who choose adoption, initiating the first meeting between the birth mother and the agency.
     
    Many women choose to abort and later return for counseling. Through Bible studies, Nelson has counseled women healing from an abortion and men who have influenced the decision to abort or have paid for the procedure. She advocates for post-abortion healing because she has not seen many churches walk through repentance and restoration. She said most church members are unaware of men beside them on the pews who paid for their girlfriend’s abortion decades ago, or of parents who have just paid for their daughter’s.
     
    LifeWay Research released a study Nov. 23 that showed more than 40 percent of women who have had an abortion were churchgoers at the time, and 52 percent of churchgoers who have had one say nobody at the church knows about it.
     
    Nelson believes the devil has two jobs: to keep people from Christ or to keep Christians ineffective. She believes one of the reasons churches do not thrive with servanthood is because many people have not healed from past experiences like abortion.
     
    “But there is nothing that Jesus Christ won’t forgive,” she said.
     
    A Hand of Hope is a member of Carolina Pregnancy Care Fellowship, a network of more than 60 centers across North Carolina. Nelson hopes more Christians will know that these centers exist and do more to advocate for life than merely voting for the pro-life candidate.

    1/26/2016 12:32:19 PM by Liz Tablazon, BR Staff Writer | with 1 comments
    Filed under: Hand of Hope, pregnancy center, Reality 216




Comments
callalily
Comforting to know that more and more centers like these are becoming available. When we were suspecting that I was pregnant, since we weren't planning/expecting it, and we were also in our early 20s, it was scary. I got free pregnancy tests from pregnancytips .org and 5 came back positive.. We became even more scared, and I didn't know who to talk to.. We are very blessed and things worked out for us. We are now happy parents of a wonderful little one.. :)
1/29/2016 11:22:36 AM

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