Bible Studies for Life Lesson for May 16- To Love and Cherish
May 4 2010 by Dale Austin Jr., associate pastor, Wakeminster Baptist Church, Raleigh

Focal Passages: Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Peter 3:7  

Nothing frightens people more than to enter into a new relationship thinking that it will be a situation where you are in a submissive role.

The biblical understanding of submission is so far from the common understanding of submission in today’s society that we will need to understand what the Bible shows us about submission to understand this passage in Ephesians where wives are to submit to their husbands. 

Well, that phrase for wives to submit to their husbands sinks like a rock in a pond when it is thrown out in casual conversation.

The term used for submit literally means to “arrange under,” and it is to be done in a voluntary way.

This is better understood as wives voluntarily respecting their husbands and letting them be the spiritual and physical head of the household. This term for submit never is to mean that someone is to become like a forced slave to another person. 

Paul continues with this marriage relationship theme and turns his attention over to the husbands.

The very first thing that Paul says to the husbands is to love your wives. Now we think to ourselves that this is a no brainer, but that was not the case 2,000 years ago.

Love did not usually come into the equation for marriages in that time.

A woman was looked upon as property and when she displeased her husband in any manner, then he (and only he) had the option to write her a certificate of divorce and kick her out of his house for any reason whatsoever.

“Love your wife, just as Christ loved the church…” was an idea from way out in right field. These believers knew how much Christ loved them and when Paul told them that the husband was to have this same type of love for his wife, then a new understanding of this marriage relationship began to take place.

How did Christ love the world?

We see in Mark 10:45 that Jesus came not to be served by us but to serve us and to give His life for us.

This is the type of love and service that a husband is to have for his wife.

The wife was not just to be a submissive servant.

Both the husband and wife were to have a new type of relationship of mutual submission to each other.

Wives, give due respect to your husbands in private and in public. Husbands, cherish your wives in private and public.

When we do this under the leadership and example of Christ, it will change our marriages and families in ways we cannot even imagine.
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