The marriage debate & the future of evangelical response
    May 11 2012 by Ed Stetzer, Baptist Press

    NASHVILLE, Tenn. – After both Vice President Joe Biden and Secretary of Education Arne Duncan pushed for acceptance of same-sex marriage May 6, North Carolina reversed the trend and became the *30th state to amend its constitution to define marriage as an act between one man and one woman.

    Now President Barack Obama has affirmed his support of same-sex marriage. The president’s statements should come as no surprise.

    His refusal to defend the Defense of Marriage Act and his comments about “evolving” on the issue both pointed toward this event. I Tweeted recently that I expected such a move from the president. The only remote surprise is the timing of his announcement. I, like many others, expected this announcement after he had won a second term in November. This announcement accelerated the timeline of an inevitable conversation.

    So how do we as evangelicals respond?

    Last year I wrote a brief post on the future of the evangelical response regarding homosexuality after Starbucks’ Howard Schultz withdrew from speaking at the Willow Creek Leadership Summit. In that post, I listed five principles to consider about the issue of homosexuality and evangelical churches. Those principles still apply today.

    The issue is not going away, and you cannot ignore it or seek to downplay your views. Since Stonewall, the gay rights movement has continued to gain influence. Evangelicals have responded poorly at times and earned a reputation for intolerance. Now, as they seek a more biblical and grace-filled response, we cannot erase our past mistakes. However, we can control our attitudes and responses in the future by being clear and gracious at the same time.

    The culture sees this as a “justice” issue – Christians discriminating on the basis of immutable characteristics.

    Christians have always believed and taught that God’s standard and intent is a man, a woman, a marriage and a lifetime. To us, that just makes sense, but to an increasing number in our culture, this is simply discrimination. President Obama clearly justifies his reason for supporting gay marriage because of the Golden Rule – the idea that we should treat others justly, as we would want to be treated.

    Though it is easy to make the case in the church that homosexual practice (and marriage) is incompatible with scripture, it will be an exceedingly difficult case to make in today’s culture.

    I mention in “Subversive Kingdom” an example of running for school board. A half a century ago you would not have been considered for public office in most communities without a strong record of service in and loyalty to a local church. Today that same qualification, if the church teaches biblical truths about homosexuality, is a detriment to one’s candidacy in many areas of our country. This will become more of an issue in days to come.

    Building bridges and showing grace and love is lacking, needed and essential when dealing with people with different views and values.

    Many Christians are more concerned that they take every opportunity to clearly condemn homosexuality. Simply put, I do not think you or I need to begin every conversation with a statement of our opposition to homosexuality. We can, indeed, show some grace to those who struggle while believing what the Scriptures clearly teach.

    At the end of the day, all evangelicals will still have to deal with an issue on which the evangelical view is perceived as narrow and bigoted.

    Evangelicals will continue to be pressured to accept a worldview rooted in cultural acceptance rather than biblical revelation. While President Obama’s thoughts on certain issues may evolve, the biblical teaching has not. We can listen to Dan Savage and decide to “ignore” the Bible’s teachings on homosexuality, or we can live with the fact of what the Bible teaches and recognize that, because of such, our reputations will suffer.

    Christians have said a lot of unhelpful things about the subject over the years – but that does not mean we cannot say helpful things now. The most helpful truth is the biblical truth. In the midst of a complicated issue, we need to admit to poor engagement in the past, speak of the complexities of the issues involved, but always point to biblical truth and change that can be found in Christ.

    (EDITOR’S NOTE – Ed Stetzer is president of LifeWay Research. This column first appeared on his blog at

    *While N.C. became the 30th state to amend its constitution to define marriage as an act between one man and one woman, it became the 31st state to vote in favor of a marriage amendment to its constitution.
    5/11/2012 1:22:31 PM by Ed Stetzer, Baptist Press | with 1 comments

Carson Hilburn
While Christianity and culture are going to remain at odds over many things, if there is one thing which Jesus taught us it is to love and to love unconditionally. He loved until it hurt. He loved until he died. The Bible teaches a clear word against all sin. No one sin is greater than the next for a lifestyle of sin separates us from God. What we need to do as Christians is to continue to believe in Biblical authority and part of that teaches us tolerance and love. This does not mean that we should cave into culture. We are called to be different. We are called to be transformers, but how can we be if we are labelers. The world is just as wrong when they label all Christians and especially North Carolina Baptists who supported "Amendment One" as bigots. Still, we should expect this to happen. The lines have clearly been drawn in the sand one more time and we should be willing to expect this but we should also offer love, grace, and compassion. While people are hurting, we should never differentiate. When the Good Samaritan came across the Jew near to death, he could have easily have said, "well he got his just desserts. After all that the Jews have done to us, he deserves it." Rather, he didn't see a Jew, he saw someone in need and did the right thing. The moment that we move away from a capacity to love, and forgive, and to give evidence of Christ-likeness then we have become the world.
5/16/2012 7:57:52 AM